the video was put together by karen center, for the mom 2.0 summit.
and the words…
WHAT I WOULD TELL HER:
(If I knew what to say.)
You are a miracle.
And I have to love you this fiercely: So that you can feel it even after you leave for school, or even while you are asleep, or even after your childhood becomes a memory.
You’ll forget all this when you grow up. But it’s okay.
Being a mother means having your heart broken.
And it means loving and losing and falling apart and coming back together.
And it’s the best there is. And also, sometimes, the worst.
Sometimes you won’t have anyone to talk to.
Sometimes you’ll wonder if you’ve forgotten who you are.
But you must remember this: What you’re doing matters.
And you have to be brave with your life so that others can be brave with theirs.
The truth is, being a woman is a gift. Tenderness is a gift. Intimacy is a gift. And nurturing the good in this world is a nothing short of a privilege.
That’s why I have to love you this way. So I can give what I have to you. So that you can carry it in your body and pass it on.
I have watched you sleep. I’ve kissed you a million times. And I know something that you don’t, yet:
You are writing the story of your only life every single minute of every day.
And my greatest hope for you, sweet child, is that I can teach you how to write a good one.
oh…those words.
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i’m new to this site, have only been following for a few months. this is beautiful. as a new mother to a precious little girl, this is so dead on, so right, so perfect. thanks.
Absolutely lovely. And so true.
i absolutely LOVE LOVE LOVE this message. I need to make my own little self encouragement videos with pics of my own kids and my own voice telling myself what i need to hear for encouragement.
i am so moved by these sorts of things, so that would probably be a very good way to stay encouraged as a mom. thanks for passing this along today–i blogged it, too. its an important things to be passed along.
I completely needed to read this today, Deb. Thank you so much for posting it. xox
Thank you for sharing. Just the reminder I needed.
so beautiful.
Oh those words alright!! :’( When you have a daughter who is turning 17 this year and in her final year at school going into College, you can only hope & pray you have done the best job possible that has taught her to write her own good story!…Oh those words……
Wow! Thank you so much for these words. They are powerful in their honesty and truth. I even blogged about it: http://www.rosaurasandovalblog.com/2010/02/04/life-priorities-what-i-would-tell-her/
Okay wow oh wow. You have just been inspiring me like crazy woman! I feel like everything you have been posting has just been right ON for where I am right now! It brought me a lot of joy to send this particular video to several of my “mom” friends
Thank you thank you!!!
Crying now. Good tears, though, so thank you.
ok deb, you find the most amazing things to share….amazing!!!!!
i blogged these words on my blog-a-roo today as well…thanks for sharing this! i needed to hear it!
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OK – now I am crying. Thanks so much for encouraging words!
Lisa
Thank you for encouraging moms! My ministry is to marriages and some of the hardest hit marriages involve moms who don’t know their value. Can I share this with other Women’s Groups if I show the credits at the end?
I appreciate the encouragement. I have a 24, 21 and a 19 year old daughters. Each are at diffirent stages of leaving and sometimes wonder who I am to them now. Being a mom is fun, tiring, exciting, frustrating, a feeling of pride, a feeling of sadness. I feel honored to be a mom and I appreciate the encouragement because sometimes I wonder if what I have done and am doing does matter.
I needed this! Most everyone knows I’m raising my granddaughter, Carmen. She is a blessing.
This is such a lovely poem. This has brightened my day.
God bless every one of you.
In His Grip, Willie
so awesome. I have three children, but this reminds me to give a little extra tender care and motivation to my little flower, my monkey, Thanks for your great works!
Amazing video. It inspires me to continue to be the best I can me as a mother and now as a grandmother…..Thank you for sharing this inspiring video.
This was amazing! I wanted to share it with with my children and many othes whom I love.
Thank you for capturing sentiments that are hard to capture!
What wonderful inspiration! I, too, would like to share this video with my ministry to mothers and daughters. May I share your video during speaking presentations, showing the credits, of course?
I am thankful for this video and words..i get caught up in micro managing that I am not a very good mom..You feel like a big flat mess..
thank you for putting into words what is in my heart- what a blessing to hear these words today….
a beautiful expression of how a mother feels–no matter how old her children
I am a mother of four and feel like I am pulled in four different directions and don’t give enough of my time to each. When the day is done and I lay my head to rest I tell myself I know that God Blessed my womb and I was created to be a mother. Love is what it is all about.You have a beautiful essay and video.
I am the mother of a “middle age” daughter and son. I experienced all these emotions as they were growing up. I watched them sleep with tears of love in my eyes, cried the first day of school, and cried even more when they left home for good. How do you give them the tools to face each phase of life? I am proud of the special people my children have become, but God do I miss those little children, teenagers and young adults they left behind, but revel in the joy of being a grandmother. Thank you for this special message and a reminder of the cycle of life.