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is there a perfect time?

May 13, 2010

a friend posed this question today on her facebook wall:  what is holding  you back from booking a family photo session?

quite a few women (moms) quickly commented that their weight is holding them back, which made me really sad. and a few posted money, which i understand but i also believe that there’s enough photographers out there to cover everybody’s budget.

this all led me to thinking about the perfect time.

is there ever a perfect time to have photographs taken of your family?

i posted on our wallflower friends blog today about an awesome article i read, which had the overall theme of taking the time to slow down and appreciate life and the everyday beauty that surrounds us.  in a swirly kind of way, i feel what i shared there and what i’m sharing here is totally intertwined.

it’s so easy to say –
i’m too fat.
i have too much going on.
we’re too busy.
maybe next year.

but i just want to say STOP IT! we need to take the time to appreciate the value of family photos, if not for ourselves (because we’re too fat or whatever), then for our children.  in 20 years, your children are not going to say,

i really love this photo of my family but i wish my mom had waited until she lost some weight.

and i think about steve’s mom, who died when she was 40, only months after being diagnosed with breast cancer. steve was five at the time she passed away. he cherishes every single photo of his mom (not just the ones where she was thin, beautiful and looked perfect).

and kirsten sandstrom, who recently passed away at the age of 37, leaving behind a husband and three young boys. i don’t think for one second that those boys will look at photographs of their mom (who pre-cancer probably wished she could have lost some weight) and see her as anything except the most amazing and beautiful mom there ever was.

we never know what tomorrow will bring our way.  and life is quickly racing by; before we know it, our kids will be grown and leaving the house.


i hope that this will inspire someone, who might be waiting for that perfect time or to lose a couple of pounds, to book a photographer…today!

and let us all try to slow down, remember what’s important and see and hear the everyday beauty that surrounds us. © deb schwedhelm | tampa family photographer

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Jennifer@GDWJ August 11, 2010 at 3:50 am

Gulp. Sigh.

Still catching my breath on this one. What a beautiful reminder of our days — and the opportunity to capture the beauty in each one of them.

We chase hard after “perfect,” and miss beauty right under our nose.

AmyPunky Photography August 11, 2010 at 9:12 am

So true! I’ve shared this article everywhere, on my personal FB page, on my professional page… Thanks for the reminder!

Rachel Arthur August 11, 2010 at 11:54 am

you just photographed by best friend serena so i wanted to come check you out! i have to say i am overwhelmed by what a beautiful spirit you have and i am so very grateful for the gift you have given my dear friend it means so much to her as i am sure you know! this post resonates with me as i avoid {family} photos because i am very judgmental about my looks and have to have the perfect pose to be happy with the way i look in a picture…thank you for reminding me that i am beautiful and that time is too short and waiting is not and option. you are lovely and amazing indeed <3

Muriel August 11, 2010 at 1:34 pm

Wow this blog really touched my heart…My son was married Saturday August 7th 2010..I did not want my picture taken because of all the extra pounds that have accumulated..I even said to the photographer I hate having my picture taken..because I am so over weight..If I had read this first I doubt I would have said that to Meghan from Double Exposure…
I am a cancer survivor almost 9 yrs…what a beautiful woman Kirsten is..the photographs of her and her family will always be cherished…

Aubri August 12, 2010 at 3:00 pm

Couldn’t agree more, sharing this post- thank you.

Angel August 13, 2010 at 8:27 pm

I am so happy that I came across your site and blog. We were just in Tampa and so wish that I could have met you! I love your work! AMAZING!


tara August 17, 2010 at 8:40 pm

Great article. Thanks for writing it. So true. I just booked my family portraits for September! Yay!

Jenny R. Webb August 26, 2010 at 3:16 pm

I always try to encourage our mom’s to get family photos in the near future or their child’s session. But RARELY push the issue of having them done that day. However, this one particular day, I would not quit pushing the issue and convinced the mom to just get a couple of shots done with her kids while she was there. Her hair was a mess, she had no make up on and was in a simple blue t-shirt that happened to go with what she had dressed her kids in. I simply told her that I did not expect her to buy them but she would at least have a copy with her proofs. As expected, she did not buy them, but had decide that she would get her family photos done… eventually.
Well, about 3 years goes buy, and I had forgotten all about the session until I read in the paper that a local school teacher and her 2 small children were in a fatal car accident. We later found out that while the kids both survived, their mother was killed instantly. I knew I recognized the name. But could not remember if she was a customer or if I just knew of her thru the school. I kept hoping that someone in her family would remember if I had taken any family pictures for them and give me a call.
Sure enough, the kids grandmother was with them the day they had their pictures taken! About 3 months after her daughters death, and finally getting her grandson out of the hospital, she had time to give me a call. She had over heard that I back up all of my pictures to disc, and was wondering if I by chance still had the copies from that session, Thank God, I sure enough did!!!!!
Mom had never gotten around to getting the family pictures done. And like most mom’s they are the ones taking the pictures, not being photographed them selves, even with simple snap shots. Grandma came in and picked out what she wanted and for the very first Mother’s Day after their mom’s death, Grandma gave her grandkids the very Pictures that I had taken 3 years earlier. I know these kids said nothing of how mom had no make up on or her messy hair. Just that Mom was holding them, and kissing their cheeks.
I know that ,everyday, I get to preserve a memory for a lot of people. I feel privileged to be a part of their lives and to be able to capture a time that will come and go faster than we think it will. It is true that a picture says a thousand words, but it is also true that a picture can bring you joy, peace and a simple reminder of the love that surrounds you.
I have sense learned that any time I can get the parents in front of the camera is an opportunity that I must take. Even if it is not the best shot, and the parents are not dressed for the part, I do try to sneak in a couple candids of the parents. I also do not allow them to delete them, they can have the proof, put it in a drawer some place and forget about it. When it is needed, the picture will find it’s way back to you.
Great-full to be a photographer,
Jen of Jen’s Photographic Memories:Salem, Ohio

Nicole Taylor September 15, 2010 at 2:03 pm

Oh MAN did this article hit home. Not only do I have clients that respond with “I’m waiting to loose weight” …. but last night my 6 year old asked me ” Mommy if you die when we’re still little… what happens to us.?”
It just made me think about all the family sessions I do for everyone else yet I don’t have a single picture of my own family as a whole and my youngest is 3 years old.
This is a GREAT write up Deb and thank you for putting it into perspective an just HOW IMPORTANT family pictures are!

Angela Boone September 15, 2010 at 2:13 pm

The story above makes me cry. So many moms never take a moment to think about themselves or how important they are to the people in their lives. And when they are gone, it is the moms that it is so hard to find pictures of. I think we should all do like the photog above and encourage mom to jump in – just for a moment- while they are there. We never know what the future holds. I know I’m guilty in the First Degree. :(

andrea topalian September 15, 2010 at 11:00 pm

What an inspiration! I have been saying for years that I need to have a family portrait taken but am ALW?AYS waiting to lose at least 10-20 lbs. I had a portrait session scheduled for my children today (with me as the photographer) and I decided to get cleaned up and join the pics. I even got my husband to come by after work! I am so thankful that we did this! I have wanted to have “professional portraits of my family forever”. This is my fifth year photographing other families and I had none of my own! Now I do! Yeah! Thanks to my au pair Lygia for taking over the camera so mommy could jump in! I just set up the shot, exposure etc and she did the rest! thank you for the final push to get this done!

Jac L. September 16, 2010 at 1:07 am

Great post and great reminder for all of us! I’m going to pass this one on!

Rochelle September 17, 2010 at 4:44 pm

This was very moving. This is what I try to tell people all the time. I was supposed to do my little brother’s senior pictures when he was 17. I wanted to wait until October when the leaves began to change. Sadly, he died in July and I never got that chance. Now I kick myself every day for not seizing that moment so we could have had a few more pictures of him.

Kerri Lydell September 27, 2010 at 7:31 am

Thank you for this post. It touched me in so many ways. I lost my mother when I was 24 and she was 48 to breast cancer. I have precious few photos of her and it really makes me sad. She didnt shy away from the camera because of weight but she just didnt realize the value of photos. I wish everyone I knew would give the gift of photos they mean the world to their families! We shot a wedding 2 years ago not realizing a young man who attended that wedding would die just 2 months later and we had taken probably some of the last photos of him…I cried so hard when I found out he died. He caught my eye so I took alot of photos of him that day. He had such a sweet spirit and was the kind of kid who you figured would grab life by the tail. I was happy that the family had these photos of him full of life and happy and being the life of the party, but it sure reminded me that tomorrow is not promised to anyone.
Thank you for your wonderful post which I read and immediately posted on my facebook. I hope many many people read it and make those memories something that they and others can appreciate for many years down the line.

Amanda Schultz September 27, 2010 at 11:52 am

Beautiful post.

Linda September 27, 2010 at 2:02 pm

As another photographer I will be sharing this eloquently written post with my friends/fans, etc. I’m guilty of this myself and your post as prompted me to make an appt. with another photographer today for my family session! THANK YOU for reminding us what is important!

Lauren Rodgers September 28, 2010 at 11:04 am

This article is a real motivater, I have been putting off family pictures since my daughters birth in hopes of losing weight. Time to stop procrastinating and go….

Renee September 29, 2010 at 2:38 am

Very moving blog. I am one of those moms that hates the camera probably why I am always behind the lens -I kept gaining after my last pregnancy due to thyroid issues. I have allowed more photos of me recently than in the past. My husband was diagnosed with cancer a few months ago news like this definitely hits home of what is tomorrow, what time we have here and now need to be treasured.

Kristen October 12, 2010 at 6:24 pm

Thanks for the gentle reminder… those photos are a perfect reminder that later may be too late!

bridget {bake at 350} October 12, 2010 at 6:43 pm


My sister is a photographer and I’ve been putting off having our picture taken for this very reason…my weight. Wouldn’t you know I weigh 8 pounds MORE than when I first started putting her off. I think it’s time.

Thank you!

Renee (Kudos Kitchen) October 12, 2010 at 6:58 pm

This made me cry. Seriously cry. It also brings things into perspective and for that, I am grateful.

Shawntae November 30, 2010 at 3:41 pm

Wow.. Amazing post. You’re are 100% right. I have young beautiful girls that say “Oh, I don’t photograph well.” I tell them, “Well you’ll regret not having photos of yourself young and full of life, when you’re all wrinkled and gray.” I should just lead them to this post.. because we never know how many days are left in our lives, and we may not even make it to “wrinkled and gray”.

Shae November 30, 2010 at 9:37 pm

Beautiful and provoking! Thank you for sharing!

Michie December 2, 2010 at 8:22 pm

This Touched me So Much, God Bless Her Family, And Thank You For Passing It On !

Michie December 2, 2010 at 8:24 pm

God Bless And Thank You For Passing The Beautiful Story On ! May She Know She Has Left Behind Beautiful Memories/Photography !

Lidia Siberia - Chicago Wedding Photographer February 24, 2011 at 9:58 pm

Beautiful post. Thank you for sharing. I’m reposting!

stacey bruce February 26, 2011 at 8:12 pm

Thank you so much for this post. I’ve shared it on my FB page in hopes that more women will see themselves as beautiful no matter how “they” think they look… and that their families will thank them one day for not letting it get in the way of capturing “now” in a family portrait.

Nicole Benitez Photography March 8, 2011 at 1:00 am

I just posted about this same thing a couple of weeks ago. A beautiful reminder to slow down and appreciate everyday because we are not promised tomorrow. Gorgeous photographs too. oxox

Mirys June 6, 2011 at 7:05 pm

You are TOTALLY right!

I try to live / fell everythin / spend my time like this: thinking that THIS IS the perfect time!!!
There can be no other! So enjoy it!

Congrats! Great post!
Kisses and blessings.
from Brazil

karen September 2, 2011 at 8:58 pm

WOW I am speechless with tears in my eyes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is sooo true I also am always on the other side of the camera and never ever have pictures of myself….there are a few with the kids but not very many becasue I think that I am overweight but I have just been showed a differant perspective to things…thank you soooo very much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I hope you do not mind but I am going to link this to my blog it is sooo very very true…..

Laura Beekmann November 18, 2011 at 11:52 pm

Great post! Thanks for putting it out there. So true!!

Suxy November 23, 2011 at 3:12 am

Thank you to put all the words in these post as I always wonders when people around always think they ugly in the pictures while its not about that..
will shares this.. :)

Jen Scofield November 23, 2011 at 4:26 am

This is a great post! I lost my mom and grandmother as a teenager and I wish there were more family pictures of us. we never really got them done for one reason or another. That is part of the reason that I wanted to be a photographer because photos are so important.

Kristi November 23, 2011 at 4:34 am

Positively beautiful. You’re right – better to have memories than regrets!

Rene' (Mommy to 4 boys) November 23, 2011 at 5:03 am

I agree 100% with ALL of it …EXCEPT the statement “NO, THERE IS NO PERFECT TIME.” Because the PERFECT time is NOW. Today. This moment. Start snapping away! Talk about chasing after perfection? Well you don’t even need to take a professional picture. Have a family member, best friend or neighbor come take pictures of your family. Can be in your bed reading them stories, in your back yard on the swing set or at a nearby park in the gazebo. Doesn’t have to be anything fancy, expensive or time consuming. Those are nice and great to have, too! But take those ‘every day’ pictures, too!! Take them NOW! Because one thing this author is right about? Tomorrow is not promised to any of us! My son was diagnosed with cancer at the age of 4. I had just given birth to our third son and we had just moved into our new home only a month. Talk about a crazy time. And one of the first thoughts in my head?? I DID NOT HAVE A FAMILY PICTURE!!!!! Not only of the original four but now with this new baby! What if my son died? I was DESPERATE to get a family portrait! It was the FIRST thing I did on our way home from the hospital after his operation. And we took MANY during his treatment. And now we take family pictures at least once a month if not more. Professional once a year. TODAY is the PERFECT day…. TODAY!

Michelle O. November 27, 2011 at 7:23 pm

Last week my 11 year old nephew had a fatal accident. I assure you every pixel of every image is a priceless treasure now. Even the blurry one of the back of his 3 year old head, when still wondered if he’d ever grow into his ears. :)

Melissa Stottmann September 6, 2012 at 2:40 pm

Thank you so much for this post. I shared to my page :-)

CrisStephens October 3, 2012 at 7:23 pm

Oh Deb, what I beautiful article. I will definitely share it… So true…

Lil December 10, 2013 at 6:02 pm

I participated in Help Portrait over the weekend. We were able to talk a mom into getting into the photos with her girls…inspired by posts like yours. Thank you.

autumn chaptini February 5, 2014 at 8:18 pm

Thank you for writing this I plan to share it. My husband died 3 1/2 years ago of cancer and we had never had a family picture taken. I was pregnant or trying so we never felt our picture would be complete. Needless to say we never had a professional picture with all 4 of us. It saddens me so much now I might overdo the family pictures but I feel it is so necessary.

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